31 Days of Life Coaching - Day 8
Are You Believing?
You know…you find yourself doing the very thing that you do not want to do over and over again. Maybe it’s your health. You keep promising yourself that you will go to the gym, or go for a daily walk, but you never make the time to do it. Or you say you value time with your spouse, but really it’s the one thing that you consistently move to make room for another item on your To Do list. I know…we all do this. And I was recently in the same boat.
You’ll be hearing about this more than once. Because it’s something I struggle with and I suspect I’m not alone. Busyness…a too full schedule…over commitment…saying Yes too many times…and the havoc it wreaks. Busyness throws off many of the things I say matters to me – time with God, quality time with my husband, writing, a sense of peace, to name just a few.
So if busyness is so bad for me and makes me feel guilty, stressed, and dissatisfied with my life, why do I keep getting myself overbooked? <--c comment---c--="">lick to Tweet--c>
This past spring, I had had enough. I found myself in this crazed scurrying cycle once again. I was practically panting through my days, exhausted at the end of the day, cranky, and so unfulfilled. I needed a breakthrough!
So I booked a few sessions with my Life Coach. And she asked me a number of questions that led to the following realizations on why I was so busy. It turns out I was believing a pack of lies. Here are three of them:
- Lie #1 - I was believing that what I do, not who I am, is what makes me worthy of being a part of a group or having friends or being loved. In other words, I have to earn my sense of belonging.
- Lie #2 – I believe that what others want from me is more important than what I want for myself. So if I have someone else depending on me for a task, I will easily push aside what I have in mind for that time slot.
- Lie #3 - If I don’t show up, the show will go on without me and I’ll get left behind. I have a fear of being left out. (Can you say second child syndrome?)
This was the start of my breakthrough. There was more ahead, but this was a start. Taking the time to really think about the lies that motivated my busyness and writing it down so I could further reflect on it and go a little deeper was a giant step toward a bigger breakthrough. One that even surprised me…
I’ll share that in the next installment.
Here’s a Coaching Question for You Today:
What lies are you believing that keep you from breaking through obstacles to the changes you want to make?
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