More Than Okay...Reflections on Time
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: Ecclesiastes 3:1
It’s a little word that carries so much weight.
Much has been said about time…
“Don’t waste time.”
“Make time for the important things.”
“If only I had more time.”
“Time is fleeting.”
In time…we heal, dreams come true, things come to pass, purposes are fulfilled.
In my mid-50s, I’m on the other side of a lot of time. And I’ve learned a few things along the way.
1. There is a time to let go. I’ve spent so much of my time raising children…34 years, including my stepdaughter. Now it’s time to let go. Each one of my four daughters has left home. And it’s good. It’s supposed to happen. But it’s been a long time since my home was quiet, still, empty the way it is today. I miss the noise, the singing (lots of singing), the sounds of tears and laughter, the squeals of victory and the cries of defeat, I miss the sounds of coming and going. Don’t tell my kids, but I even miss the mess. Their rooms are neat and sterile. And it doesn’t take time to clean up a room that’s no longer being used, no longer lived in.
2. In time, it’s going to be okay. My friend Sharon was telling me about all the changes ahead for her.…selling her home, relocating, moving in with and caring for her mother, a daughter getting married. Lots of newness, lots of unknowns. Each change she described was followed by, “But, it’s going to be okay.” I know what she means. I’ve too gone through a lot of changes. It takes time to adjust, but eventually we do…and it’s okay.
3. This too shall pass…is what my grandmother used to say. She had a pretty tough life—an Irish washerwoman alone raising a wild child, lost her husband to the Great Depression, left crippled from a break that never healed, and near blind from a degenerative disease. Yet, she made it through with strengthened faith and the will to keep going and keep looking up. Her mantra became a part of me when I faced some terrible times in my life. The raw unexpected devastation of loss…even this, in time, passed.
4. Time flies. Whoosh…and it’s gone. But on the other hand, I’ve lived so very fully. I’m astonished at all that has occurred in these 50+ years. So much living, so much growing, so many events and moments. I feel in some ways like I’ve lived many lifetimes…a very happy thought.
5. Don’t wish time away. Young mama, this one’s especially for you. I know how hard and long some of these days can be. Full of the mundane of raising, cooking, cleaning, wiping, wishing away the To Dos, the Got to Get Tos. It may be hard to stay in the moment, but trust me, all too soon, this work will be done, and your kids will be raised, and your home will be quiet. You’ll have lots of time to think…and it will be really good in so many ways. But you will be sad too and miss all the chaos and craziness of raising kids. So stay here…in this moment…savor this time.
So this is my bottom line on time…
Time goes fast, so fill it well, intentionally, moment by moment. Savor today. Know that whatever difficulty you are going through will pass. It may not go away, but the sting, the hurt will lessen. You’re going to be okay. In fact, you’re going to be more than okay. Because our God of all time, has your time, your purpose, your life in the palm of His hand.
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