This Journey Called Marriage - Day 6
5 Steps To Take Toward Two Becoming One
Yesterday I shared a story about how my husband and I had assumptions and expectations based on our family of origins that led us to approach vacationing in two different ways. This created a divide in our relationship. So we had to figure out a way for our family to vacation.
- · For example, let’s say you have very different spending habits and you’ve identified that this is an area where each of you have been impacted by the way your family of origin dealt with finances. You've discovered distinct differences in your approach as a result.
- · What did you see/experience in your family regarding finances? Each of you should take a few minutes uninterrupted to talk about your experience.
- · How are these approaches different? How are they the same? Discuss.
- · What is most important to you regarding your finances? Is there a habit or tradition you’d like to keep that has been passed down by your family (a detailed budget, for example).
- · Where can you compromise?
- · What needs to change?
- · What would you like to keep from your family of origin and what would you like to change?
- · Are there any non-negotiables? Can you agree to them?
- · Now discuss how you can go forward as a couple, working on your finances in a way that is agreeable to both of you.